Aella! Aella! Aella!! Im so exciteeeeed. I am doing work all day and probably going to listen a million times over! I am going to probably say so much in the comments!
I dont have social media but I methodically check in with Aella since I discovered her on the Lex Fridman podcast. Her sexuality research has changed my life unironically. got to interact with her on her discord a few months back while she was clarifying for research " Aella are you trans?"(iyfkyk) Ik she has been going through it and I wanted to say that I bring her/her work up often in my personal life to my people. Shes a beacon of light and hope for fellow wyrdos like me. parasociality can be bizarre but love is what allows us to transcend our physical forms. aella is love personified. Im literally more myself because of you all and I would never want to downplay that. Hoping the best for this sweet friendgroup, your vulnerability is sacred and protected with me 🥺
Firstly I went to a sex party last night and as I have sexualities quite in line with the 3 of you, this feels like the correct debrief. Was literally thinking last night that I do not like being pet, groped or experiencing the darker reaches of my sexuality in a group of men that are not vetted and with whom i do not have rapport. And that being one of the topics, makes me feel seen in such a wa
Harem chat- there is something so hot about getting recommendations for men from girlyfriends but its even hotter to know that the hot men you're dating are great vibe selectors for you as well.
Love being a vessel for divine sexual energy. The oldest guy(70s?) at the sex party last night spent a lot of time suckling my nipples and fondling me(it was his birthday) and it did feel courtesan like. I felt happy to be pleasing to him and was surprised at how open the body can be compared to the mind. It was hot! And my thing about energy exchange is that you can set an intention to be cleared of the energy, if you are concerned. And we exchange energy through conversation, eye contact and touching someone on the subway. That energy since it cant be created or destroyed is always going to be alchemized/transferred in some way, why is it only fundamentally damaging when in a sexual context? More vulnerable sure but i enjoyed aellas point about,within bounds, being as open to the experience as possible.
I'm most envious of chesed for the manifest anal >.<! When I married my husband I was like, "oh, this dick size is doable for regular anal" and then it turned out he only did it at the beginning because *I* like it and he is not into it at all and thinks it's gross. *sigh*
Also - using women to give feedback during coaching sessions/to practice specific techniques (such as escalation) is something dating coaches do and is probably very effective.
FWIW, I wouldn't be surprised if a Slutstack/Aella's JV into coaching would be extremely popular.
I think there's actually an interesting parallel between approaching women and talking to celebrities, at least from the viewpoint of the approacher. It's the same sort of dynamic where you aren't sure if your approach will be appreciated, and then if you do there's some element of performance where you feel like you have to make it worth their time.
Anyway, there's a question I wanted to ask Aella at Manifest but never got around to (it might also be an obvious one that you've thought about already). But given that you are want to use IVF for polygenic screening, and you are poly, shouldn't it be possible to tailor your husband search primarily on values and child-rearing compatibility? It seems to me that you're maybe focusing too much on sexual compatibility, to the extent that if husband qualities are also required, it's a pretty tall ask. This would add as candidates men who are either asexual or certain types of submissives, which aren't that common, but probably would still represent a large relative increase in the size of your candidate pool, versus just people who are sexually dominant, more successful than you, and also ready for commitment.
Aella! Aella! Aella!! Im so exciteeeeed. I am doing work all day and probably going to listen a million times over! I am going to probably say so much in the comments!
I dont have social media but I methodically check in with Aella since I discovered her on the Lex Fridman podcast. Her sexuality research has changed my life unironically. got to interact with her on her discord a few months back while she was clarifying for research " Aella are you trans?"(iyfkyk) Ik she has been going through it and I wanted to say that I bring her/her work up often in my personal life to my people. Shes a beacon of light and hope for fellow wyrdos like me. parasociality can be bizarre but love is what allows us to transcend our physical forms. aella is love personified. Im literally more myself because of you all and I would never want to downplay that. Hoping the best for this sweet friendgroup, your vulnerability is sacred and protected with me 🥺
It’s heartwarmingly pleasant to hear all you 3 laugh like that…
Firstly I went to a sex party last night and as I have sexualities quite in line with the 3 of you, this feels like the correct debrief. Was literally thinking last night that I do not like being pet, groped or experiencing the darker reaches of my sexuality in a group of men that are not vetted and with whom i do not have rapport. And that being one of the topics, makes me feel seen in such a wa
Harem chat- there is something so hot about getting recommendations for men from girlyfriends but its even hotter to know that the hot men you're dating are great vibe selectors for you as well.
Love being a vessel for divine sexual energy. The oldest guy(70s?) at the sex party last night spent a lot of time suckling my nipples and fondling me(it was his birthday) and it did feel courtesan like. I felt happy to be pleasing to him and was surprised at how open the body can be compared to the mind. It was hot! And my thing about energy exchange is that you can set an intention to be cleared of the energy, if you are concerned. And we exchange energy through conversation, eye contact and touching someone on the subway. That energy since it cant be created or destroyed is always going to be alchemized/transferred in some way, why is it only fundamentally damaging when in a sexual context? More vulnerable sure but i enjoyed aellas point about,within bounds, being as open to the experience as possible.
I'm most envious of chesed for the manifest anal >.<! When I married my husband I was like, "oh, this dick size is doable for regular anal" and then it turned out he only did it at the beginning because *I* like it and he is not into it at all and thinks it's gross. *sigh*
The self defence scene seems super fun!!
Also - using women to give feedback during coaching sessions/to practice specific techniques (such as escalation) is something dating coaches do and is probably very effective.
FWIW, I wouldn't be surprised if a Slutstack/Aella's JV into coaching would be extremely popular.
I think there's actually an interesting parallel between approaching women and talking to celebrities, at least from the viewpoint of the approacher. It's the same sort of dynamic where you aren't sure if your approach will be appreciated, and then if you do there's some element of performance where you feel like you have to make it worth their time.
Anyway, there's a question I wanted to ask Aella at Manifest but never got around to (it might also be an obvious one that you've thought about already). But given that you are want to use IVF for polygenic screening, and you are poly, shouldn't it be possible to tailor your husband search primarily on values and child-rearing compatibility? It seems to me that you're maybe focusing too much on sexual compatibility, to the extent that if husband qualities are also required, it's a pretty tall ask. This would add as candidates men who are either asexual or certain types of submissives, which aren't that common, but probably would still represent a large relative increase in the size of your candidate pool, versus just people who are sexually dominant, more successful than you, and also ready for commitment.