The questions in this post were sourced from Chesed’s admonymous. If you have a question for either or both sluts, please email askthesluts@gmail.com.
Question: classical music, jazz, blues, rock, electronic or pop music?
Pandora is a longtime Taylor Swift girlie. Depending on how many breakups vs new boys a given year contains, Spotify has either a) classified her top music moods as “wistful” and “hopeless romantic” or b) identified her top genre as “indie poptimism”.
Chesed listens to a lot of 70s pop/rock, modern Jewish worship music, and sad indie 2000s.
Question: My Brazilian friend told me that hookup culture is very popular in his hometown, he received more attention from women there than here in Europe. Eventually he showed his Instagram DMs and I was shocked! I never saw thousands of women giving attention to a single guy. Also, he mentioned the way they get dressed with small skirts and exposed bellybuttons. Most women here are cold, they don’t expose themselves. How did you manage to find orgy friends in a not so sexually open culture like that?
Pandora: I entered the slut cloud by way of Feeld. I stumbled upon it just by being a slut for long enough, in the right location (Bay Area). When I drove all the way from South Bay to SF to meet my first rationalist bonobo boy, I sensed he may become an important character in my life. He exuded many uniquely himself qualities, he was relatively unconstrained by society, and he asked me for feedback after the first time we had sex. He inspired my sex doc by assigning me sex homework. Shortly after meeting, he was inviting me to sex parties, starting with the CNC sex party series he helps organize. I declined those at first, deciding to start with normie sex parties (like those hosted by the Bonobo Network). Over about a year I became comfy with those and decided to try out RMN parties. Now that we’ve been dating about 2.5 years, I feel fully enveloped within the slut cloud in my own right. I have a theory that part of the reason the Bay Area rationalist bonobo slut cloud exists is that Aella acts as a sort of lightning rod to gather all the electricity (sluts) in the vicinity. It is much easier to live more openly as a slut amongst a social circle that broadly celebrates this rather than stigmatizing it.
Chesed: I found my orgy friends by filling out a random application Aella posted for sexy events. Before that, my husband and I had used Feeld to arrange for a few foursomes. Unfortunately, making sex friends seems to be much easier in some places (the Bay Area, NYC and I guess Brazil?) and much harder in others (North Carolina, from what I’ve been told).
Question: Me and my GF are going to hire a prostitute for a threesome. Any suggestions to avoid scams or anything dangerous?
Chesed: Do we know some pretty women who seem to have doppelgangers on Tryst? Yes, we do. Is this our area of expertise? No, it is not, please go read Aella.
Pandora: I have never done this but seems like a reasonable move. It dodges the unicorn supply and objectification pitfalls. I don’t have specific advice other than making sure you are communicating with your partner before and after and that neither of you is feeling pressured into it.
Question: Given your vast experience, about penis size, how many inches would you consider to be too small, ideal and too big?
Chesed: It all depends on what you’re trying to do with the penis! The average erect penis is around 5 inches. The average erect penis at an orgy looks like around 6 inches (this is my wild ass guess based on looking around; we have not lined the boys up and measured). I think my husband’s dick (which I consider to be TOO BIG) is about 8 inches. If I could press a button that shrunk it by an inch I would (if he agreed. A reversible option seems ideal). I love that “filled up” feeling but there are certain positions/acts I can’t tolerate due to his dick size (e.g., plow with legs up on shoulder, anal). I think most of my other partners have “orgy average” dicks which are above average but not insane.
Sometimes I think about dick size in terms of a clit to penis spectrum. A trans guy who is taking testosterone may have a very large clit that behaves and can be treated like a small penis for the purposes of oral sex. Small dicks are good for anal sex and make blowjobs easy. A medium dick is handy because you can try a lot of positions and approaches without substantial discomfort. Big dicks can make penetration painful. This can be annoying or can really add to a kink dynamic. It just depends!
Pandora: I think I am in agreement with Chesed that her husband's dick is borderline too big. I kind of like it for the occasional variety but honestly don’t know how she takes that on a daily basis. I have mainly had relationships with people who have above average dick size (and skill). I think this may be due to slut cloud selection effects, but I also may just be a bit more of a size queen than most. For vaginal penetration, I do like the feeling of being full, but I usually don’t like the feeling of having my cervix pounded, which can be an unfortunate pattern with longer dicks. If I were to design the ideal dick, I think I would go for above average girth and slightly above average length.
But! I have also had at least one long term sex buddy with a below average dick size. I really liked that dynamic, even though it was different from my usual patterns. If you like the person enough, penis size is probably just not critical. I also struggle to put numbers on this because I don’t need one penis to serve every purpose. I prefer to take dicks as they come! A dick that is optimally sized for vaginal penetration may tend to be too big for anal or oral. I have a smallish mouth, so I find it hard to keep my teeth out of the way while giving my boyfriend blowjobs. Also, one of my partners already has an above average sized dick but often chooses to use an even larger dildo on me because I tend to orgasm really hard from that.
Question: Are you vegan?
Chesed eats everything. Pandora is a flexitarian, she typically eats vegetarian around her vegan/vegetarian partners, and eats meat around her carnivorous partners.
Question: Are you fully natural or did botox, silicone and esthetics procedures in general? Tell us your opinion about it?
Chesed: The only cosmetic procedure I’ve done is a bit of Botox. I like it but my husband hates it so I’m not sure if I’ll continue. I don’t have strong feelings about this except that bad filler is a plague upon many pretty girls.
Pandora: I’m all natural appearance wise, aside from standard ear piercings. I’ve never even had braces, though Invisalign is the one aesthetic enhancement I routinely covet. I’ve never paid for a haircut (my mom cuts it). I am pretty happy with my appearance overall and so it’s just not a direction I tend to expend much time, money, or energy towards. I am in favor of people having options, but I also can’t seem to shake a little bit of judgement toward people spending huge amounts of money on things like cosmetic surgery.
Question: Where and how can I find a slutty succubus wife like you?
Pandora: I’m not a wife, yet. But if I were looking for a slutty wife, I would create a non-judgemental environment, get good at curiosity, get really good at sex, and then set and bait slut traps. All the while remembering to maintain balance by demonstrating just as much interest in other sides of her and supporting her as the multifaceted human she is.
Chesed: Church, synagogue, or orgy. If you meet the same girl at religious services and an orgy, marry her.
Question: What do you think about Andrew Tate? He’s poly, rich, strong, smart and controversial. I guess he’s your type of guy. If not, then why?
Pandora: I try not to think about him at all.
Chesed: I don’t think he would play well with others at the orgies.
Got questions? Please email askthesluts@gmail.com. Thanks!
"I think I am in agreement with Chesed that her husband's dick is borderline too big."
I find this quote very funny.
"I’m not a wife, yet. But if I were looking for a slutty wife, I would create a non-judgemental environment, get good at curiosity, get really good at sex, and then set and bait slut traps."
I would like a diagram of what a slut trap looks like.
"If you meet the same girl at religious services and an orgy, marry her."
This is a great quote. If I were religious I would be all about finding my person this way.